DEAR EDITOR:

On Father’s Day, I reflect on the number of fathers who just don’t know how to be one. Some fathers think the more children they have by different mothers makes them “father supreme.” They don’t care for any of them, but declare themselves to be fathers. There are television shows depicting a mother not knowing who the daddy is without taking a DNA test. How sad.

A father cares for his family. He shows his children the way they should go in this world. He protects and works hard for his family. He sets a good example and makes sure his family doesn’t go without — even if he does.

Things are rapidly changing today, and not always for the good. There is much needless violence and killing of young people. It is easy to get a gun and cause havoc. One can’t feel safe going to church, the grocery store, to school or even being home without fearing a bullet might shatter one’s world.

Fathers must teach their children precautions against injustices. To be a father is a wonderful “gift” from God that should not be taken lightly.

A father always finds time for his children, no matter how busy he may be. He accompanies his children to church. He should make his family proud.

A father may not be rich. He may not possess the wisdom of Solomon. He may not have the biggest house, or fancy car, but he will give his all for his family.

The Bible defines father like this: “As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him.” 2 Corinthians 6:18.

A father also provides emotional, social and spiritual support for his family. Children need physical and verbal affection from their fathers. They need reassurance, kind and loving discipline and spiritual leadership.

Being a father, in my humble opinion, is not just being a man who has begotten a child, but being a refuge for his family when his children’s lives become hard.

The ultimate father is God almighty. He looks out for all and loves us, as true fathers do for their children.

So, on Father’s Day today, if you are fortunate to have your father on this earth, show him love and kindness, for we get only one. And if your father has gone to glory, treasure his memory. Treasure the lessons our fathers have taught us.

To all fathers, stepfathers and to those who stepped up to be fathers: have a blessed and happy Father’s Day!

JENNIFER Y. WILLIAMS

Warren