Don’t judge a person by their dirty shirt


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by Kim Boccia   | 52 entries

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(In response to last week’s column)
One of my reader’s comments said it perfectly: “I think that the “mean coaches” need to act in a professional manner and adjust their coaching methods to the people they are coaching.”
I do have to say, in my tennis pro’s defense, she always lightened up when she saw I wasn’t handling it well. She probably wouldn’t want me to say it, but she does have a soft side. Shhhh. Just saying ...

Judgment day
Oftentimes when I mention that I belong to a tennis club, or even that I play tennis, I get a look of “judgment.” I didn’t understand why that was until I realized that some people equate tennis to country clubs, and country clubs are supposedly for the rich and snobby, therefore they assume I’m rich and snobby. Well I say poppycock!
We’re all guilty of labeling people according to what they have or don’t have, do or don’t do. It’s true and we all do it, whether you admit it or not. The fact is that wherever you go you’ll find good people and bad people, regardless of how much money they have.
Do you assume the man asking for money in the middle of the street is using it for liquor? Or could he really be going through a rough patch and trying to feed his family?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying there aren’t some pony-tailed prisses prancing around country clubs in white skirts with their nose in the air. I’m just saying that maybe, just maybe, there are some white skirts that are decent, kind, empathetic people.
You never know if the dirty-looking man next to you is a millionaire having a bad day or a “bum,” or if the woman next to him draped in jewels is an heiress or if the “jewels” are really plastic disguised as “bling.”
So I ask you this: Do you give to the man willing to wash your windows or do you shoo him away, judging his lifestyle when you know nothing about him?
Just asking ...
Note: Kim has turned her “Just Asking” column into a TV talk show titled “Kim’s Just Asking.” You can watch the debut this Saturday (and every Saturday thereafter) on WFMJ at 12:30 p.m.

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