Published September 27, 2012
(In response to last week’s column)
I didn’t receive much feedback on this one. Either I’m the only one who thinks talking to an outside source is the best way to go, or nobody wants to admit that they agree. I’m not surprised. Like I said, counseling is taboo in the eyes of many.
If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em
I am constantly harping at my children to get off their electronic devices and do something constructive. It drives me crazy when I see their brains being sucked into a small screen like something out of a sci-fi movie. I can’t help but wonder if this is one of those “age” things.
They’re always telling me that texting is the wave of the future and that I’m just old. Maybe I’m wrong; maybe I am old, but a good conversation now and then couldn’t hurt. Is it possible that when my kids are in their 70s they’ll still be texting? Or will their children be telling them to get “in the swing of things?“
I personally try to keep in the swing of things with the new ways of communication. I want to be up-to-date with the ways of the new generation. Plus, I need to be savvy as to what it is my children are up to all the time (that’s what Dr. Phil says to do). To do that, I need to know my way around a computer.
I now have a Facebook, an Instagram, a Twitter, a Tumblr, a Pintrest and a Skype account. I’m not claiming I know how to use them, but I have them. In fact, just last night I was “monitoring” my daughter’s Twitter account and accidentally tweeted a message that I thought I was texting and may have ruined her social life for quite some time. I really should not have access to public communication devices like this.
I do acknowledge that Facebook is a great way to keep in touch with far-away friends and family. I have two cousins who I would probably never get to talk to, but because of Facebook, I am up-to-date with what she’s doing and get to see her childrens’ photos and accomplishments.
On the other hand, I also get to see what my friend down the street is doing all day long. She posts when she’s doing her laundry, going to the gym, eating a sandwich, when she’s bored, and when she’s going to bed. This is way too much information for me. Let’s leave a little to the imagination — but that’s a whole other column.
Even though these updates in technology are becoming the new way, like it or not, do they have to entirely replace the old way? Should we insist that the children use the phone and talk? Or, do we jump on the bandwagon and enjoy the ride? As the old saying goes, if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em.