Published July 18, 2012
Wow, hands down on ‘The Couple That Got Away,’ everyone seems to think I should be more sensitive to my husband’s feelings. I guess they’re right, it’s just that the old boyfriend is exactly that — the “old” boyfriend!!
I love my husband, so I will let this couple get away. I’ve also had a lot of dinner invites since last week, so not all is lost!
The “I really did not want to tell you the truth cause I am a chicken” lie
Have you ever canceled an appointment at the last minute because you double booked by accident? Let your kid skip a day of school for a not-so-important reason? Have you skipped a friend’s party because you just didn’t want to go, but didn’t want to tell them the truth or hurt their feelings?
I call this the “I really did not want to tell you the truth cause I am a chicken” lie. I think we’re all guilty of this at one time or another. You could just be truthful and deal with the backlash, but you don’t want to pay a cancellation fee, endure a guilt trip, or hurt anyone’s feelings. So, you tell a little white lie. Sometimes, your children even hear you.
I don’t know about you, but I’m still afraid of the school secretary. And although I’m the mom and I can do what I want (within reason), when I’m asked if my daughter’s missing school because she’s sick, I’m not going to say, “No, she needs more time to study.”
I’m always telling my kids not to lie and I know I should lead by example, but come on. I’m not perfect. Whatever the case may be, it is dishonest and it’s not teaching the kids a very good lesson.
But the “I really did not want to tell you the truth cause I am a chicken” lie really comes in handy sometimes. Is this acceptable?
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