Published July 11, 2012
Here’s the lowdown on wedding response cards.
Not one person could give me the correct answer as to how you fill out one of these reply cards. I talked to one friend who said they got so many different replies to their wedding invitation that they didn’t have a clue as to who was actually coming.
Another person who is planning a wedding right now for her daughter said they were so perplexed about what to do that they decided to throw the typical response card out the window and design a simpler form.
Nonetheless, there is a proper way to reply. You do add a lower case r. or rs. to the capital M at the beginning of the line and add the names of those who are attending. If your title is Dr., it is appropriate to put a slash through the M.
As far as the "will___attend" goes, you leave it blank if you are attending and write “not” if you are not attending. It is also not unheard of to write a note on the back of the card if you need to.
Who in the world started this stupid format and why did everyone follow their lead? To me this is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard of!
Brothers of Ex-boyfriends
I dated a guy for four years back in high school. Since then I moved away, found the man of my dreams, got married and had two beautiful children. Four years ago, we moved back to my hometown and started making new friends.
There’s a population of only 3,000 in this town so everyone knows each other. Although my husband and I have each made friends, we don’t have many “couple friends” that invite us to go out or that we both want to invite out.
I enjoy going out with my husband and would love to have a couple that we wanted to hang out with. At a small town event one day, we ran into my ex-boyfriend's brother, his wife, and their two kids. They were funny and interesting, and we both really liked them.
My husband is not a jealous man and knows that I love him, but when I asked him if I should invite them over for dinner he replied, “can’t we find different friends?” It was because he was my ex-boyfriend's brother.
It’s been over a year now and we still haven’t found the “couple friends” that call us to go out. Is it inappropriate to befriend the ex-boyfriend's brother if you have a great marriage? Or do you let them be "the ones that got away?"
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