Published August 1, 2012
In response to last week’s question, “To Tell or Not to Tell,” all of the feedback that I got was to “tell.“ I feel that one of my dearest friends from back in high school said it best, “I think you should tell, but be prepared to lose a friend because I don’t care how close you think you are with someone, nobody wants to hear that their kid is doing something wrong.“
I recently have experienced both sides of this. One friend of mine thanked me for being concerned about the well-being of her daughter and said she’d talk to her and work through it with her.
The other situation didn’t go as well — I got shot between the eyes and our relationship will never be the same. If I had to do it over again, I’d have to say I would “tell,“, but I would definitely do it differently.
I would drop the message, run the other way and not look back. If I didn’t tell and someone got hurt I’d never forgive myself.
I have to say that each child is different so setting one rule for all of them to follow is difficult.
For example, one child at the age of 10 consistently looks both ways when crossing the street, so you let them walk to the neighbors alone. The second child reaches age 10 and still chases the ball into the street without looking, so he has to be watched when walking to the neighbors, an obvious call on the parents part.
With that being said, there are some rules that we should let the professionals decide. I’m talking mostly about movies. If professionals across the country decide that a movie shouldn’t be seen until your child is 13 and mature enough to handle the content, why do so many parents think they know better?
If it’s rated PG-13, is it so hard to tell your 10-year-old “No, you have to pick another movie?”
I don’t care what anyone says, if a child sees the “cool person” in the movie smoking and having fun doing it, the chances are that when they‘re approached with that option, they may be more likely to accept.
OK, so one movie might not be that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things, but several? Then those parents don’t understand why their child is getting into trouble.
What about when it’s a scary movie? I watched movies like “The Blob,” “Piranha,” “King Kong,” “Jaws,” etc. when I was about 9 years old. I had nightmares for the longest time. I can still remember them today and I hate letting my feet dangle in any large body of water.
The movie rating might not be a law like the drinking age is, but it is a pretty good suggestion. So what do you think — Do parents know more than the Motion Picture Association of America?