It sounds to me like a few people are feeling a bit guilty that they weren't there for this poor demented man. It is easier to place blame on the wife than to accept the fact that maybe one of you could have helped stop this tragedy. Like I said, these problems don't manifest overnight. Suicide is the ultimate passive agressive behavior."I'll fix them. I'll kill myself and then they will be sorry!" Easier to do that than admit that you need help. How tragic. I am not saying that the wife didn't need some help also.It is like living with an alcoholic. You need to get them help as well as figure out what you are doing to enable them. This man definitely had plenty of people enabling him to wallow in his own self pity. Tsk, tsk, tsk. Shame on all of you. AND....God will forgive him for his "weak and sad decision". He is an almighty and compassionate God. It sounds like Jeff already lived his own personal hell and though he lost the battle, he fought his demons. May he find peace and may all of you finger pointers try to do his memory justice and help his poor wife and children. Think of how Jeff would want you to help them through this. If he was as kind and giving man as you say he would want that!
How sad to blame the wife. Obviously this man had problems and has probably had them for years.These things usually don't happen overnight.Maybe his family should have seen the signs and gotten him some help before it escalated to the point of needing an order of protection. He must have been a very selfish person. Suicide is the ultimate selfish act. He surely didn't think of his son when he took his own life.Thankfully he didn't take anyone elses. My prayers go out to his wife and son.
Man commits suicide at Hermitage hotel
It sounds to me like a few people are feeling a bit guilty that they weren't there for this poor demented man. It is easier to place blame on the wife than to accept the fact that maybe one of you could have helped stop this tragedy. Like I said, these problems don't manifest overnight. Suicide is the ultimate passive agressive behavior."I'll fix them. I'll kill myself and then they will be sorry!" Easier to do that than admit that you need help. How tragic. I am not saying that the wife didn't need some help also.It is like living with an alcoholic. You need to get them help as well as figure out what you are doing to enable them. This man definitely had plenty of people enabling him to wallow in his own self pity. Tsk, tsk, tsk. Shame on all of you. AND....God will forgive him for his "weak and sad decision". He is an almighty and compassionate God. It sounds like Jeff already lived his own personal hell and though he lost the battle, he fought his demons. May he find peace and may all of you finger pointers try to do his memory justice and help his poor wife and children. Think of how Jeff would want you to help them through this. If he was as kind and giving man as you say he would want that!
December 29, 2007 at 11:27 a.m. permalink suggest removal
Man commits suicide at Hermitage hotel
How sad to blame the wife. Obviously this man had problems and has probably had them for years.These things usually don't happen overnight.Maybe his family should have seen the signs and gotten him some help before it escalated to the point of needing an order of protection. He must have been a very selfish person. Suicide is the ultimate selfish act. He surely didn't think of his son when he took his own life.Thankfully he didn't take anyone elses. My prayers go out to his wife and son.
December 28, 2007 at noon permalink suggest removal