Summer is a great time for tweens to develop new skills, one expert says.
NEW YORK (AP) — Kiley Krzyzek is going to be a counselor-in-training for a month this summer. She’ll do choir camp for a week.
But it’s the rest of the time the 14-year-old wants to fill up, the weeks when there is nothing going on.
“At first, it’s a big relief to be off from school without extra work and stress,” said Kiley, of West Hartford, Conn. “But then it gets to be too boring. You find yourself watching TV too much, on the computer too much.”
Many parents of tweens and young teens are looking to beat summer boredom as the economy puts pricey specialty camps and residential camps out of reach. Residential camps cost anywhere from $325 to $1,200 a week, according to the American Camp Association. And some day camps charge for counselor-in-training programs for young teens.
Since they are old enough to stay home, some parents who need to cut costs say enrolling their kids in programs for most of the summer is not an option.
Anne Wear, 42, of High Point, N.C., said she can afford to send her almost 13-year-old daughter to day camp for only five weeks; the rest of the summer she’ll remain at home.
Wear recently took a 20 percent pay cut and has two younger children — one will be going to day care, the other to camp.
“With my pay cut and the economy the way it is, we can’t afford to do more than that,” said Wear, who works in public relations.
Summer is tough for tweens and young teens, experts say. Kids in that 12-15 age range are old enough to stay home but too young to drive or get jobs other than such things as baby-sitting and mowing lawns.
But while it can be easy and cheaper to leave kids home to entertain themselves when parents are working, too much unstructured time can lead to boredom, which is a constant complaint from tweens and young teens, said Denise Restauri, founder and CEO of AllyKatzz.com, a social networking site for girls age 10 to 15.
Kids want to be active, said Restauri, and many are so overprogrammed they don’t know what to do with free time.
That can turn into a lot of television watching, computer playing and texting.
Lee Ann Fleming, 46, of Centennial, Colo., who has a son turning 12 soon, said she found a local program this summer for kids age 11 to 14, but can afford to send him only a couple of days a week.
Fleming works from home, so she can supervise somewhat, but there will be stretches where she will be working.
“He’ll read a lot. He’ll draw,” she said. “There’ll probably be too much time watching mindless television. I don’t know what else to do.”
Allison Minnick, 49, a stay-at-home mom in Littleton, Colo., worries that her 13-year-old son is too attached to his cell phone (texting) and iPod touch (playing games).
Her son likes to skateboard with friends in the grocery store parking lot, which she is not crazy about, either. She signed him up for baseball two nights a week and is considering a boxing class. In the meantime, her 11-year-old is going to cheer camp for a week and taking riding lessons.
Suzanna Narducci, co-founder of TweenParent.com, a site for parents of preteens, suggests parents look for activities that are specific to children’s interests, whether it’s music, art or science.
Her 12-year-old daughter is going to sleepaway camp for four weeks, and her 9-year-old is doing a day science camp program at a local university.
“We are hoping to go on vacation for part of the summer,” said Narducci, of New York City. “Otherwise, the kids will hang out here and we will explore the city.”
That kind of balance, downtime and activities, is good for tweens, who need a break from school and shouldn’t be programmed all summer long, said Carol Weston, advice columnist for Girls’ Life magazine.
Summer is a great time for them to develop new skills, especially if there is something they want to learn, she said.
Not to mention too much time on their hands can lead to trouble, said tween and teen expert Annie Fox. “Anything seems like a good idea because there is nothing happening.”
Young teens are trying to find activities to fill their summer weeks.
Courtney Mansfield, 12, of Rye Brook, N.Y., is going to visit a cousin in Ireland and, unlike last summer, many of her friends will be around (they say they are too old for camp, she says.) She said last summer, she read, watched Disney and played on the computer.
But even with a more action-filled summer, she’s usually glad when school starts again.
“In the beginning of summer, I am really happy to be out of school,” she said. “But at the end I get really anxious and want to go back.”