Aunt's abundant medicines concern niece
Dear Annie: My "Aunt Suzy," who is only in her 50s, takes quite a bit of medicine. Sometimes she sleeps for days at a time. Sometimes she has a headache and stays up for days at a time. She never actually feels good.
I discovered by accident that not all of Aunt Suzy's medications come from the same doctor. I tried very nicely to inquire about her meds, and she told me she needed all of them to get well. Three of the medications are narcotics that she takes several times a day. When I broached the subject of being addicted, her response was she couldn't possibly be addicted, because all the medications were prescribed.
I cannot believe, in this day and age, that people still think you can't get addicted to prescription medications. Should I say something to my uncle? He's concerned about her health but doesn't see what's under his nose. Do I hope she sees herself in your column and gets help? Or do I just keep my mouth shut because it will only cause trouble? Worried Niece
Dear Niece: There is a bigger problem than addiction going on here. Often, medications interfere with one another and cause all sorts of complications and adverse effects, simply because Doctor A isn't aware of what Doctor B has prescribed. While Aunt Suzy could very well be addicted, we recommend instead that you tell your uncle Aunt Suzy's headaches and sleepiness are likely the result of interacting prescriptions, which can endanger her health. Suggest that the two of them speak to all of her doctors and give them a complete list of her medications.
Dear Annie: My synagogue enjoys the services of a chief rabbi who recently came to us from another synagogue. The rabbi is a wonderful, inspiring, bright, insightful, kind, caring young man, a leader and friend to all. I know no one who does not like him.
What, then, could be the dilemma? His singing can turn anyone to stone. It is positively dreadful. When he attempts to warble any note and it is amplified, as it generally is when he is conducting a service from the pulpit, it is most painfully obvious that he has no sense of pitch. What, if anything, should be done? Pittsburgher with a Dilemma
Dear Pittsburgh: Does your synagogue have a cantor who does the bulk of the singing? If so, try to suffer through the few off-key notes the rabbi produces. If not, talk to the synagogue board about the possibility of hiring a cantor, or even elevating someone from the congregation with a nice voice who is capable of taking on those duties. If the rabbi has his own microphone and tends to sing into it regardless of the cantor, you might ask someone on the board to mention that doing so detracts from the cantor's lovely voice. Meanwhile, remember that services are for praying, not to critique the musical talent of an otherwise- wonderful rabbi. So pray a little harder.
Dear Annie: This is in regard to "Shoeless Joe," who complained about how many pairs of shoes women buy. You gave a wonderful, logical response about styles, colors, coordinating, etc. But I could imagine the guy's eyes glazing over.
A better explanation would be to tell him to step into his garage or workshop. He will find enlightenment there. A cordless drill is different from a hammer drill, which is different from a right-angle drill. One needs deep-well and shallow sockets, standard, metric, 6-point, 12-point, 1/4-inch, 3/8-inch and 1/2- inch drives. Don't even get me started on screwdrivers and hammers.
My wife and I used to have that argument often. We finally agreed on tit-for-tat -- or make that pumps-for-pliers. Well-Tooled but Not Shoeless
Dear Well-Tooled: We know just what you mean about eyes glazing over, but you've hit the nail on the head, so to speak. Thanks.
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