HELOISE Are coed college roommates acceptable?
Dear Readers: We received many responses from readers who empathized with a college coed and sloppy roommates. We started talking here at Heloise Central about other issues college students face.
One topic: coed roommates. Now it seems that males and females living together isn't such a big deal -- or is it? More college apartments are designed with individual bedrooms having their own bathrooms, and the idea of boys and girls sharing an apartment is an alternative some parents and students might be considering. What are your thoughts on coed roomies? Here are some of ours (names withheld!):
UI am opposed to the idea because of the potential turmoil and tension it might cause. I also don't like the thought of my daughter living with a guy because of his bringing home his guy friends.
UI think I could go for the idea with a few stipulations. I would need to know a little background on the boy and perhaps his parents. There would be no shared bathroom facilities, and my daughter should have the ability to deadbolt her room for privacy and safety. Definitely, a strict set of rules would need to be agreed upon.
UI would not have a problem with my daughter rooming with a guy, if I knew him and there were some guidelines. The age of the students and the background of the potential roommate would be a factor. I would require her to keep her grades up and be prepared for surprise visits from Mom!
UA good understanding and respect of different living habits of the opposite sex would be necessary. The bathroom facilities must be separate, and I would want my daughter to be an upperclassman.
UThis could be a complementary situation, but precautions should be taken. In order to make sure the house runs smoothly, "no dating housemates" should be a part of the house rules. Attraction could be a distraction, and school is why they are there in the first place.
UI don't see a problem with my son or daughter living in a coed situation. One concern would be that my son might not study as hard as he should, so you can bet I'll be keeping up with his grades.
As you can see, there are a variety of interesting viewpoints. Let us hear from you, both parents and students, about your thoughts and experiences. E-mail your comments to Heloise@Heloise.com (please put "coeds" in the subject line); fax to 1-210-435-6473; or mail to Heloise, P.O. Box 795000, San Antonio, TX 78279-5001. We will share your comments in an upcoming column. Heloise
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