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Thanks to single mothers, single father can succeed



Published: Sun, May 12, 2002 @ 12:00 a.m.



Thanks to single mothers, single father can succeed

EDITOR:

On Mother's Day, a plethora of emotions floods to the surface.

My mother, godmother and grandmother are all deceased. Despite their absence, the grief of their passing will always exist as a hole in my soul that time may soften but never fill. Perhaps that is as it should be, keeping that love, honor and respect I have for those women alive.

Nor are these relatives the only women I must honor, respect and feel gratitude toward on May 10.

I am a member of a rather new phenomenon, "The Single Male Parent", and have been since 1991. Four of my five children are still at home so they were quite young when my ex-wife left.

The other day a friend was congratulating me on my parenting. Naturally I was flattered, and freely tell you that the last 11 years have been difficult, but also recognize how much more difficult they might have been.

Immediately upon my ex's departure, situations I had never dealt with arose. Mundane issues, such as utility hookups, to the much more complex school and work schedule needed resolved.

To deal with these issues, I could draw only upon what I saw my parents experience in the '50s and '60s, or as my kids refer to them, "The Olden Days."

In that era, rules were written in stone, schedules to be adhered to and policies to be followed to the letter.

As the various situations would arise, I found myself projecting the battle to be fought, the stress involved, and the hard feelings that would result.

Frankly, I could not have been more wrong. Schools were understanding, utilities more open minded, and employers if not flexible, were at least willing to listen.

Major change is generally preceded by conflict, yet I encountered very little, so one must ask how this metamorphosis occurred.

It took place due to the strength and fortitude of the "Single Mother." It was their sacrifices, selflessness and willingness to battle the status quo, that has made my circumstances and that of my kids so much more simplified to deal with.

I wish to thank you for your courage and many contributions you have made making my life, my children's and the lives of all the single parents; men and woman following you, so much easier.

You have my respect, gratitude and a sincere wish, you have a wonderful Mother's Day.

REGIE M. MALIE

Sharon, Pa.

Bush must be sensitive to black community's needs

EDITOR:

As an African-American and Youngstown resident, I would like to applaud Youngstown Mayor George McKelvey for his vision in selecting Robert Bush to be the Youngstown's first black police chief, even if this appointment will not put to rest the neglect of the black community's concerns, hopes and dreams.

I hope Chief Bush will be sensitive to the needs of the city residents and hold himself and the fine men and women of the Youngstown Police Department to the highest professional, ethical and moral standards. I believe anything less would be totally unacceptable by Youngstown residents.

Finally, while there may have been other African-American men and women the black community considered more qualified and popular at the Youngstown Police Department, I would truly hope everyone in the community would give Chief Bush our prayers and a chance to succeed for the benefit and good of all in the community.

WILLIE JAMES RICHARDS

Youngstown

Racism no longer the norm in Youngstown

EDITOR:

I'm writing in response to a letter that states that we live in a city saturated with racism. I have lived in Youngstown for 46 years and I certainly don't see the point of view. Yes, there is racism here, but it is from both black and whites and it isn't the majority.

I would like to see it all go away, but we know this will never happen. The writer also states that "conflict resolutions and domestic violence confrontations, which police chiefs deal with regularly, are resolved much more amicably, when the authority-mentor figure looks like you."

Sounds like he is insinuating that all these perpetrators are black, which we know better. But he needs to watch what he says.

I, for one, was glad to see a black police chief appointed and I really feel that he is a man who will do his very best. He could never solve all of our problems, but I'm sure we will see a change in our city for the better.

We also need to stop looking at color and look at the people instead. I was blessed by a mother who never taught me prejudice and I always have tried to be the same type of mother. How much more fulfilling my life has been because of this.

BETTY FORD

Youngstown

Ryan's youth and energy proved the experts wrong

EDITOR;

This past primary election produced an important fact, that this Valley no longer condones negative campaigning. At the tail end of the campaign for the Democratic nomination of the 17th District, state Sen. Tim Ryan was being attacked by his two major opponents and by a non-relevant loser for the 17th District congressional seat two years ago.

These attacks were out of desperation and were intended to divert attention from the real issues of the campaign. The voters of this Valley, I believe by the vote garnered by Mr. Ryan, found that these actions were distasteful and unacceptable.

Mr. Ryan stayed positive during the whole campaign and focused on the issues that are most important to the people of this Valley. The so-called experts gave Mr. Ryan no chance at all, even though he out-debated his opponents and surely articulated his position more effectively.

Even though Tim showed much class during the campaign, your paper endorsed the other candidate, which, of course is your right.

However, your political writers did everything possible to put Mr. Ryan in a bad light. Articles about his immaturity and about his lack of responsibility come to mind. Even in your editorial, the day after Tim's landslide victory, you still are centering on his lack of experience and still trying to tell the good people of the Valley how ineffective he is as a state senator. To me, this just sounds like sour grapes.

Mr. Ryan proved the so-called experts wrong and went on to beat the odds. His youth and energy are pluses in getting this Valley on the move again.

GEORGE SENDA

Niles




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